A long time ago, I became a mommy. Nobody had ever told me that being a mom would be so incredibly hard. It’s easily the toughest job in the whole wide world. Nobody ever lets you know this. Or actually… in retrospect, people have tried to warn me. But nothing can truly prepare you for it.
And when it does happen, you’ll find yourself making all sorts of resolutions for yourself. You’ll be promising yourself to breastfeed them for a certain time, to never hit them, to always be buying them new toys and whatnot. The list of things you mean well just goes on and on. But good intentions are just that. They’re merely intentions.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with good intentions. The problem is that it isn’t realistic. And it doesn’t really matter. New mommies worry way too much. The reason they do this is probably because it’s better to err on the side of safety than being too lax and letting some sort of harm come to your child.
Every once in a while, you might miss a breastfeeding session or something like that. But it’s very important not to beat yourself up over it. It’s okay if you’re not perfect. Everybody makes mistakes. No mommy on the world ever was perfect. Neither were your parents. And look how you turned out. You probably turned out fine, so there you have it!
One resolution that I made even before I had my baby, was that I was going to ensure to eat healthy all the time. And I really did switch to a healthier diet right before I became pregnant. I wanted to make sure my baby would have a head start in life and not have to worry about whether my health habits would saddle my baby up with birth deficiencies.
If you let good intentions and resolutions get the better of you, you won’t be able to enjoy mommyhood, which is easily the most important job on the planet! So be sure to give yourself some leeway when raising your children. You dont have to get it picture friggin’ perfect. Just so long as you get it kinda, half, sorta right… you’re already doing it well enough.
One very important thing is that you feed your children well. Kids are pretty resilient. They can easily take it if you accidentally bump them into something or you scare them by having a fight with your spouse and they start to cry. You will not traumatize them for life and they will not hate you for it when they grow up.
The most important thing you can do is that you put plenty of good nutrients in them and make sure they get a good amount of rest. This is what children need in order to grow up and become healthy, tall, strong adults with a good immune system and a good dose of self confidence.
So if you’ve just become a mommy, go out and buy the greatest baby food blender and bottle warmer you can get, if you haven’t done so already. I cannot stress the importance of good nutrients enough. Home made food is endlessly better then store bought food that comes in a jar. You think those manufacturers care about you raising a healthy baby? They care about making a profit.
Don’t be gullible and buy premade food. That’s the lazy way of raising your kids. If you have a good baby food maker, then you can simply make all your own food weeks in advance. You don’t have to use a blender every single day of your life. You can simply make the food a week in advance and freeze it for a week.
You can use either ice cube trays for freezing the home made baby food, or you can simply buy some dedicated, day labelled containers for this. I simply went down the ice cube route. But to each his own. It’s not that containers with a day label are expensive, because they aren’t.
As a matter of fact, I’ve been meaning to buy them myself. I just never got around to it. Guess I was just being lazy. So far for being a perfect mom. But, oh well… it’s not like one container produces better frozen baby food then another.
The other thing you need to keep in mind, is that you provide your newborn with lots of rest. Kids require both nutrients as well as rest in order to grow up. You don’t want to see kids suffer from stunted growth, because we’re not living in a third world country here.
Babies grow up fast and their cribs will need to grow along with them. You can possibly go for a convertible crib. Or you can just keep buying new ones as your child grows in size. You won’t have to spend too much money on it if you don’t want to. So go ahead and check out a good, cheap baby beds comparison on this site I’m linking to and take your pick.
Your child will spend a vast amount of time sleeping. But don’t think for one second that being a mom is easy. When you have just become a mommy, you are about to find out how hard it truly is. Those times when your baby is asleep, are just temporary breaks for you to catch your breath. And when you are catching your breath, it’s important that you really take your time to chill out.
If you don’t take a moment for yourself, you’ll run out of energy quick enough. You don’t want to become one of those moms that frequently hates being a mom. So don’t turn your children into the very center of your world. You’ve got to be nice to yourself as well. You deserve it. And if you love your children, then you’ll make sure to get some enjoyment for your self as well.
I like to cuddle up with a good book myself. But you might have other hobbies. Whichever your other passions are next to your children, make sure to free up some time for those passions. Nobody ever said this was going to be easy. But in the end, I’m sure you’ll find it’s all worth it. Because being a mom changes you for the better!